Perception as Reality

by Karen · 24 comments

in Books,Career,Personal Development,Success

Young or Old Lady What do you see in this picture?

Do you see the young lady facing away? Or do you see the old lady looking down?

What is real?

They both are, of course. Both the young lady and the old lady exist in this picture. It’s an optical illusion.

Some people will see a young lady looking away in the picture while other people will see an old lady looking down. Depending on how you look at it, part of the picture might be the young woman’s nose and eyelash, or it might be a wart on the old woman’s nose. What is the young woman’s ear might be the old woman’s eye. What is the young woman’s necklace might be the old woman’s mouth.

The picture itself hasn’t changed. Your mind just emphasizes different parts of it to make it real for you.

If we perceive something to be real, does that make it real? If I perceive myself to be a really good writer, does that fit with reality? Do others perceive me that way, or am I just fooling myself? If it’s my reality, does that make it real?

Here’s another example. How do you perceive your ‘worth’ money-wise?

If you think of yourself as a hard worker and feel that you are ‘worth’, let’s say $50,000 per year, when someone comes along and is willing to pay you, let’s say $85,000, it changes your perception of yourself. (I’m not talking about me in this example)

Your eyes are opened to the possibilities. Wow, my skills are worth $85, 000!

This is why I like reading books on success, personal development, finance, and other genres that get you to change your perception about the world, your life, and your possibilities.

By changing your perception, you change your reality.

Brian Tracy’s ‘Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life‘ book is a book that has such a profound impact on my thinking. Some of the more practical concepts that I’ve taken from this book are:

When you believe something to be true, it becomes true for you, whatever the fact may be. “You are not what you think you are, but what you think, you are.”

The fact is that you can never earn much more or less than your self-concept level of income. If you want to make more money, you have to change your beliefs about yourself relative to income and money.

Your aim is to become so confident, courageous, strong, and resolute that you can set any goal for yourself with the firm knowledge that you can learn what you need to learn, and do what you need to do, to eventually achieve it.

The more different things you do that are likely to help you to achieve your goal, the more likely it is you will do the right thing at the right time.

Prosperous and wealthy people have a prosperous and wealthy mind-set. When you develop the same mind-set that other successful people have, you will soon enjoy the same results and experiences that they do.

The greatest wealth you could possibly possess is between your ears. You can create an unlimited future for yourself by tapping into your brainpower and channeling it, like a powerful current, to energize your life and get you anything you really want.

If you generate 20 ideas per day, 5 days per week, 50 weeks per year, you will come up with an astounding total of 5,000 new ideas to improve your life and work each year.

The most important principle of human life is that you become what you think about most of the time. The most successful men and women report the same things. They think about what they want and how to get it most of the time.

In the book, Brian Tracy outlines 6 steps to achieving any goal. They are:

Step 1: Decide exactly what you want
Step 2: Write down your goals
Step 3: Be willing to pay the price
Step 4: Make a detailed plan
Step 5: Take action on your plan
Step 6: Do something every day
Step 7: Never give up

I think Step 1 is the hardest. Once you decide what it is that you want, the other steps just seem to fall into place. At least that’s my experience. If you want something badly enough, chances are that you will do what it takes to achieve it. You will invest in yourself. You will pay the price, whatever it is.

Isn’t it true that many people simply do not want to change that much?

But without change, we become stagnant. Our lives become small.

We do not see see things as they are, we see things as we are. — Anais Nin

How about you? Are you ready to make your perceptions your reality?

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1 Jean Sarauer May 5, 2010 at 7:14 AM

I just put that book on my reading list – sounds excellent.

Lately, I’ve been finding #6 above to be especially helpful. Life has a way of unfolding in a way that doesn’t always play well with my plans, but still, I can always take at least one small action forward on a major goal. It’s surprising how empowering this can be and how it builds momentum.

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2 Karen May 6, 2010 at 9:43 AM

Oh, Jean, you won’t be disappointed. It’s a fantastic book full of very useful and practical information on changing your thoughts in order to succeed.

Momentum is really important. It’s so easy to continue with a habit than it is to break it. Start a good habit and you’ll have it for life.

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3 Hal Brown May 5, 2010 at 9:16 AM

I understand that when we set out to do something, we certainly don’t set out to fail. That would be a non sequitur. However, the questions about the nature of reality have been debated for centuries by the great minds in philosophy, from the Greeks through post existentialist thought.
I haven’t read, Brian Tracy’s ‘Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life‘ nor the quote,
“You are not what you think you are, but what you think, you are.”
You said – When you believe something to be true, it becomes true for you, whatever the fact may be.
I have to think in terms of reality, using all my senses to percieve it, hopefully as accurate as possible. Because I don’t believe in positive thinking, or thinking makes it so, I usually get slammed as if I’d cursed in church.

I just finished a good book, “You Are Not A Gadget” by Jaron Lanier. Here is a quote that is indicative of my own thought.
“You can believe that you mind makes up the world, but a bullet will still kill you.”

I’ll probably get slammed for daring to not believe there is only one way to think. I have my asbestos underwear on. :-)
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4 Karen May 6, 2010 at 9:45 AM

Hey Hal,

Thanks so much for describing your point of view and for the book suggestion. It sounds interesting.

Of course, bullets are real. But what about things that we think are real but aren’t? We have a lot of limiting self-beliefs that can be reviewed to see if it’s just our perception or whether they stand up to reality.

Thanks for sharing,
Karen

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5 butterfly May 5, 2010 at 9:40 AM

I would honestly say 7 is the hardest achievement for me at this point in my life. Great post. Real is where it’s at
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6 Karen May 6, 2010 at 9:47 AM

Hi Butterfly,

Never give up, because you don’t know how close you are to overcoming your limiting beliefs and how close you are to having your goals completed. Perseverance is very good trait to strengthen.

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7 Kim May 5, 2010 at 1:33 PM

Hi Karen,

That great picture from days gone by sure conjures memories of old illusions ;)

The concepts you’ve listed make for a wonderful outline for a mastermind group and a supportive community of personal development writers. Brian Tracy’s steps are exactly what I have planned as I continue to meld my work online.

I resonated with your comment about deciding what you want. Taking that first step to decide, then commit, can bring up thoughts of, ‘Am I going down the right road?’ ‘Did I make the right decision?’ ‘What if my biggest fear materializes?’ Getting over the initial hump of doubt and gaining clarity creates momentum for positive changes.

Thanks for sharing,
Kim

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8 Karen May 6, 2010 at 9:50 AM

Hi Kim,

Yes, the picture is pretty old but I thought that it illustrated the point about perception versus reality pretty good. It’s been around forever and it was interesting researching its origin.

You are certainly proof that the steps are working on your site. A mastermind group sounds great and would push everyone to reach for their dreams :-)

Thanks for taking the time to comment.

Karen

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9 Jimi Jones May 6, 2010 at 7:03 AM

Wonderful piece, Karen!
I enjoyed the article.
In many cases, changing one’s perceptions may the the easy part. Once this is accomplished the real work begins with “taking action” being a major hurdle for many. We humans are generally great at making excuses for not getting things done, a means of justifying our lack of progress. It’s the tomorrow-will-be-better-than-today mentality that allows procrastination to creep in and halt progress before it even begins.

It is those individuals who have the discipline to follow a plan and continually take action that eventually find success. You must be both driven and determined.
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10 Karen May 6, 2010 at 9:55 AM

Hi Jimi,

So glad that you enjoyed the article. I agree that changing our perception can be very difficult, but once we learn to question our perceptions we can then take action. I also agree that you have to have discipline (and self-awareness) to take continual action in your life. No matter what, don’t give up.

Thanks,
karen

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11 James Tayo May 6, 2010 at 10:53 AM

Oh now I am going to have to get that book, Karen. Makes so much sense. I changed my job two years ago and I got a 100% increase in pay and I wondered how they could be so stupid to pay me that much.
I guess it was the perception of myself that made me think that way.
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12 Karen May 6, 2010 at 11:31 AM

Hi James,

That’s happened to me, too. With my new job, I was making $X on a Friday and the following Monday on the new job, I was making $X+20K. It blew my mind how little I was valuing my skills and how much money I was losing because I was scared to move on from that company thinking that I didn’t have marketable skills. That’s one lesson that has really stuck with me throughout my career. There’s the amount of money YOU think your skills are worth versus what the market will pay you. Don’t let your own beliefs about money or your skills from limiting your worth.Your perception can be vastly different from reality.

Thanks for sharing,
Karen

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13 Matthew Needham May 6, 2010 at 2:22 PM

Karen, I think I’ve found an article for next week’s Wednesday Wisdom. I’ve not heard of this book, but I can see there are many points you can action quickly. Briliant post, thanks for sharing. RT ing now
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14 Karen May 6, 2010 at 10:18 PM

Hey Matthew,

I’ll look forward to your post next Wednesday then! Thanks very much and I’m glad you liked the article.

Karen

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15 Julius May 6, 2010 at 4:05 PM

I believe that we all have the ability to form our own reality. I noticed this in myself: when I see things negatively, I tend to cause things that aren’t as good as I want them to be.

To have a more positive mindset, I always try to spend a few minutes each day in a quiet place where I could free my mind.
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16 Karen May 6, 2010 at 10:22 PM

Hi Julius,

Then you should really check out the book so that you can change your thoughts which will change how you see things. I admit that I can be pretty negative about things, too. But, I do recognize that there are various ways of looking at what’s happening in my life and around me so that I consciously choose to see things in a more positive light. Meditation is a great practice, too.

Thanks for sharing,
Karen

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17 Julius May 9, 2010 at 3:15 PM

Thanks for your response Karen. Yes, I’ll check out the book after work today. :)
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18 ayo May 8, 2010 at 10:35 PM

hi karen
how are you?
thanks for sharing this article
i remembered doing the exercise in stephen coveys book and kept insisting in my head it was a young woman till i followed the train of thought of it possibly being an old lady.i guess it all had to do with my perception.
i also agree that step 1 is the hardest because there are so many things that crave for attention and at times one becomes confused on what one really wants and sometimes we just dont know what we want because there’s nothing inspiring us to generate ideas. you have also given me an idea for the book to use for the next life skills challenge lol!!!
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19 Karen May 9, 2010 at 9:21 AM

Hi Ayo,

Yes, you really have to look hard to see each of the women in the picture, particularly if you are positive that there is only one woman.

Glad that I was able to inpsire you for the next Life Skills Challenge. I’m looking forward to it :-)

Thanks,
Karen
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20 Steve Scott Site May 8, 2010 at 11:07 PM

That simple picture exercise illustrated your point perfectly. To be honest, it took me a second before I could see the old lady! Sometimes looking at things from all angles –and thinking with a different perspective — helps me figure out the best solution to a problem I’m having. Good stuff.
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21 Karen May 9, 2010 at 9:23 AM

Hey Steve, glad that I was able to introduce you to something new and give you a new perspective. The picture is a really old one and has been around forever, so I’m glad that you are new to it.

Looking at issues from different ways can help us with their solution. We can become bogged down with only one perspective so it’s important to think of various ways at looking at issues.

Thanks,
Karen

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22 eric May 9, 2010 at 11:20 AM

This is an incredible post and has really inspired me. I’m going to check out that book and give it a read mainly because I also like reading books on self-development and such and because we really can achieve anything we put our mind to, with the right steps and actions outlined for those steps.
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23 Karen May 9, 2010 at 11:38 AM

Hi Eric,

Thanks so much for the kind words and I’m happy to introduce you to a great book. It really is worthwhile to check out as he gives concepts that I haven’t read anywhere else. It all boils down to our thoughts and what we are thinking about affects what we do on a daily basis. Change your thoughts and you can change your life. :-)

Thanks,
Karen

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