Seven Friends That You Need In Your Life

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I’ve been thinking a lot about my friends and the people that I attract into my life. I don’t know about you, but when one friend leaves my life invariably someone else will take their place that will remind me of the older friend.

I think it’s pretty important to have close friends throughout your life, particularly at different life stages. I’ve really been blessed with some of my friends who have been very fantastic to me for many years. But, I’ve been great to them, too.

It’s true that you have to be a great friend to have a great friend. And, I have some pretty darn fantastic friends!

You meet people who forget you. You forget people you meet. But sometimes you meet those people you can’t forget. Those are your ‘friends.’– Author Unknown

With that in mind, here are 7 Friends That You Should Have In Your Life:

1. The Cheerleader

You need that friend who is your cheerleader and will support you no matter what. This is the friend that you go to when you’re feeling down. They’re most likely to give you a pep talk when you’re feeling really down and just need someone to remind you what a fantastic person you really are. They might even come over and give you a cheer with their pom-poms, if you ask nicely.

In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out.  It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being.  We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit. — Albert Schweitzer

2. The Hipster

This is the friend who is younger than you and can tell you what’s new and hip and trendy today. This friend doesn’t make you feel old, but tells you what you need to know to keep up and be cool in today’s society. They’ll tell you that MySpace is Out, Facebook is In (for now) and that you desperately need to update your wardrobe from the ’90s. This is also the type of friend that you can tell stories about the time you wore leg warmers (when they were in) and that you had the Rachel ‘do’ for months and they’ll know exactly what you mean.

The most I can do for my friend is simply be his friend.  — Henry David Thoreau

3. The Mentor

If you were a gentle mentor to your Hipster Friend, then your Mentor Friend is someone that you go to when you need solid advice. This friend always seems to know what you need to hear and when you need to hear it. They’ll guide you through the pitfalls of life because they’ve been there and done that. They have your best interests at heart and don’t want you to go through the trials and tribulations that they did. They have some things figured out and are happy to share with you their wisdom.

Some people go to priests; others to poetry; I to my friends.  — Virginia Woolf

4. The Comedian

The Comedian is the friend that you go to when you need a good belly laugh. She’ll brighten your day with the craziest story that happened to her that day and will have you hugging your sides from laughing so hard. Everyone needs a friend that just ‘gets them’ and this friend gets you. They can make you laugh no matter what happened. Even if your pet died that day. They’ll find something funny about every situation. And, since laughter is the best medicine, after being your Comedian Friend, you feel a lot better just by being with them.

Life is partly what we make it, and partly what it is made by the friends we choose. — Tennessee Williams

5. The Pusher

We all have doubts about our abilities and what we should do with our lives. The Pusher friend is the one who tells us to stop waffling and apply for the job or go for the guy because ‘darn it, we’re hawt!’.  There’s a little bit of tough love because The Pusher knows that we will come up with all sorts of excuses, but they see right through our B.S. and makes us go for things in life. Without the Pusher, we wouldn’t have gone for that promotion or asked that girl out or made you take up salsa dancing or told you to just get on with it.

6. The Translator

This is the friend who’s of the opposite sex who only has the best platonic intentions for you. They’re able to translate the opposite sex with you when you have no idea what to make of that date you had last night. They’ll tell you not to sit by the phone because he’s just not that into you. They’ll tell you that she was just being nice so that she didn’t hurt your feelings and that you are firmly on the friend ladder. Because they are of the opposite sex, they’ll translate for you the men- and woman-speak for you. They help you navigate the waters with the opposite sex.

A good friend is a connection to life – a tie to the past, a road to the future, the key to sanity in a totally insane world.  — Lois Wyse

7. The Best Friend

Everyone needs a Best Friend in their life. This is the friend that sticks by you no matter what. They’ll go with you on that double-date because they know you need the moral support. They’ll even take the pottery workshop with you and give up every Saturday for weeks, just because they want to be in your company. Your Best Friend is the first person you call when you just got dumped and the person you call to bail you out of jail. They’ll help you move, pick you up at the airport, remember your birthday every year and are always there for you. They’re on your speed dial. And, you’re on theirs. Your Best Friend knows you and you know them. Silences don’t need to be filled and you don’t have to explain why you’re crying or why you called. They’ll just know.

Remember:

In order to have a friend, you have to be a friend.

You are one of these friends to someone in your life. And, if you’re not – why not!?

The best time to make friends is before you need them.  — Ethel Barrymore

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1 Katie June 1, 2010 at 7:31 AM

Karen, this is a terrific post. I love the categories of friends. I could picture the ones in my life that fit into each category and the ones I am to my friends. Wonderful. I smiled while reading the entire article and felt blessed for the friends I have.
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2 Karen June 1, 2010 at 7:34 AM

Hi Katie,

We are definitely blessed to have friends in our life. Without them, I don’t know what I would do or where I would turn sometimes.

I know what you mean – I can categorize my friends into the categories, too.

Thanks,
Karen

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3 Jean Sarauer June 1, 2010 at 7:38 AM

The older I get, the more I value my friendships. I went through a stage where I was constantly busy with family and work, and friendships took a back seat. I’m lucky that my friends put up with me, really. Since then, we’ve been there for each other in the good times and the rocky times, which seem to come closer together now that we all have aging parents, kids who are getting out on their own and floundering a bit, etc.

Much as I love my family, it’s my friends who truly and 100% “get” me.
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4 Karen June 1, 2010 at 7:42 AM

Hi Jean,

I can relate to the older part and valuing the friends that we have in our life. It’s amazing how much they really get us – probably because of the past experiences we’ve had with them. I don’t know what I would do without some of my friends who have been there for me over the years.

Thanks,
Karen

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5 Angela Artemis June 1, 2010 at 8:05 AM

Karen,
I really enjoyed this post. What great categories.
I can see I’m missing of few of them.
I’m going to have to work on getting a few more friends!
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6 Karen June 1, 2010 at 5:35 PM

Hi Angela,

I’m glad that you enjoyed the post and I know what you mean about needing some new friends. It gets harder the older we get, but that means that we should also value our existing friendships more than ever.

Thanks for stopping by,
Karen

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7 Dia June 1, 2010 at 3:56 PM

The list is so true especially number 3,4, and 7 Thanks Karen for sharing
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8 Karen June 1, 2010 at 5:36 PM

You’re welcome, Dia. Thanks for checking out the article and for taking time to comment.

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9 Julius June 1, 2010 at 6:28 PM

I can say that I don’t have all of these types of friends, but I am thankful nonetheless for the ones I have, especially my best friend. Oftentimes, one best friend can be our cheerleader, our pusher, and the other personalities you’ve included.
I also appreciate that you included excellent friendship quotes after each type of friend.
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10 Karen June 2, 2010 at 7:31 AM

Hi Julius,

I am thankful for my friends, too. I don’t know where I would be without them. Even the ones that I don’t see everyday.

Thanks for mentioning the quotes. I thought that maybe after all my quotes articles last week would be too much, but I couldn’t pick just one – there were too many great friends quotes that I had to include. :-)

Thanks,
Karen

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11 Alex June 1, 2010 at 9:36 PM

Karen ‘Tony Robbins’ Ruby you’ve done it again girl!
This is an amazing post that basically says – these are the personality traits that you need to surround yourself with at certain times, but you need all of them, and a balance, etc etc – but somehow you have put it in such a way as to make it relative, fun to read, insightful, enjoyable and EASY TO COMPREHEND!
I love it and I have bookmarked this page for future reference.
PS: If you need a cheerleading comedian in your lineup – skype me at @yeah-you’re-not-actually-that-funny-cheerleader-boy
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12 Karen June 2, 2010 at 7:33 AM

Oh, Alex, you make me laugh.

Plus, you made my day! Thanks so much for the kind words and I’m glad that you enjoyed reading the article. I can tell that you must have some great friends yourself! :-)

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13 mark June 1, 2010 at 10:27 PM

Ha – Hey Karen!

Its funny because I was thinking “Hey I know all of these people” until I got to the pusher. Then I thought of the Allman Brothers. Then I realized where you were going with this.

Today, I could have used more of the comedian.

Yeah, I can think of a person of each style in my life, and you are right. I really could not get along without them. And it is strange for me to say this, but I think there are a few of them who might say the same about me.

Great post once again Karen.

Have a good day!
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14 Karen June 2, 2010 at 7:34 AM

Hey Mark,

Why would it be strange for your friends to appreciate the role you play in their life? You’re a very giving person and I’m positive that you are surrounded by friends who value your friendship. Maybe I should have said the Tough-Lover, instead of The Pusher? :-)

Thanks for stopping by,
Karen

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15 David Moloney June 2, 2010 at 7:03 AM

Hi Karen,

Yes, each of these people are invaluable in helping us ‘get through’ life and get the best results. Reflecting on the roles you’ve discussed it’s also interesting how we can take on different roles, depending on which friendship circle we’re in. This could be the ‘hipster’, ‘comedian’, ‘mentor’ or even ‘the best friend’. Now that is flexibility.
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16 Karen June 2, 2010 at 7:36 AM

Welcome David,

It’s true that we are probably each of these types to various people at different times. I know that depending on my mood and the friend that I am, I can fall into the comedian, the pusher, the mentor or the best friend mode. I’m sure that some of my friends can do the same with me, too.

Thanks for that comment because you bring up an interesting point.

Karen

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17 Justin Popovic June 2, 2010 at 8:20 AM

Nice one Karen!
I can think of friends in my life who fit all of these categories. A few actually fill 3 or 4 of the roles simultaneously. Its cool to think about your friends from these different perspectives.

You have also shed some light on the kind of positive reinforcement we all need to seek out in order to succeed at anything we are doing!
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18 Karen June 2, 2010 at 8:24 PM

Thanks, Justin! I know a few friends of mine that fit the different categories at the same time, too. Funny how that works out, eh?

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19 Courtney Carver June 2, 2010 at 2:32 PM

Great Post! This is such a great reminder to appreciate the people that make our lives so rich. I am going to call my #7 right now!
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20 Karen June 2, 2010 at 8:25 PM

Welcome Courtney,

I’m sure that your BFF appreciated the call :-)

Glad that you liked the article and thanks for stopping by.

Karen

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21 Eric June 3, 2010 at 11:31 AM

Friends are great to have. Having close friends in our lives that help us and inspire us and keep moving us forward along the path of life make all the difference in the world for them and us.

Great post Karen! :)
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22 Karen June 3, 2010 at 10:43 PM

From one friend to another – thanks so much, Eric :-)

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23 Stephen June 5, 2010 at 12:48 AM

Hi Karen
Great post and really pleased to have come across your blog. Have been blogging for a couple of months now on the journey to meaning, and it was feeling pretty lonely out there:-).
My personal favorite: the Comedian.
Stephen.

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24 Karen June 5, 2010 at 9:42 AM

Welcome Stephen,

I’m really glad that you liked the article and that you discovered the site. I know what you mean about feeling lonely, particularly at the beginning of blogging. Hang in there, believe that you have a powerful voice to make change in the world, and promote yourself.

Thanks for taking the time to comment and share with us.

Btw, love your domain name :-)

Karen

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25 Therese Miu June 5, 2010 at 1:28 AM

Beautiful Post Karen. I have been called all my life a “bestfriend” I don’t mind it at all. I do tend to extend and care so much. I was the person everyone goes to for advice, shoulder to cry on, or simply to have a great time. I have always felt that practicing ‘non-judgment’ has helped me blossom into the friend I needed to be. I am so glad I found you through Ben Lumley 6aliens.com

I like this post and looking forward to learn more from you Karen :)

Love Light & Blessings to You
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26 Karen June 5, 2010 at 9:50 AM

Welcome Therese,

I wouldn’t mind being called a best friend, either :-) I think it’s really important to have close relationships with our friends – who else can we bounce ideas off and tell our deepest fears to, except our best friends? It’s a special relationship for sure and one that everyone needs in order to have (and give) support, or as you say, to offer a shoulder to cry on.

Ben’s site is wonderful, too, and I’m glad that you came over from him.

Thanks for your comment and kind words.

Karen

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27 Eleanor Edwards June 6, 2010 at 10:18 AM

This was beautiful Karen. I have a friend and I know I make him smile but was in danger of feeling left out and overshadowed by his mentor type friends. Reading this showed me the reason why I can only be the sort of friend I am and trying to be anything else is just pointless.

Thanks Karen. This really helped, a lot :)
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28 Karen June 9, 2010 at 9:03 PM

Hi El,

You can only be yourself (which is pretty darn fantastic!). He’s lucky to have you in his life, regardless of the role you play.

I’m glad that it helped. Thanks so much for saying that, I really appreciate you letting me know.

Thanks,
Karen

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29 Eleanor Edwards June 12, 2010 at 6:12 AM

Awww, you sweetie :) Thanks Karen :) I know I said it already, but I really can’t over-state how important this post was for me. The timing was uncanny. Do you ever get where you know something (or at least, you know what you should know – if that makes sense?) but you don’t know it in your heart or soul or wherever? Your post was just what I needed to hear and, to coin a phrase I hear lots of my lovely self-development friends use, it really resonated with me :)

Hope you’re having a lovely weekend (sorry to hear about your aunt x)
El x
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30 ayo June 6, 2010 at 11:47 AM

hi karen,
how are you?
thanks for sharing this article. it was informative and it made me think of the relationships my friends have with me and i started assigning/allocating their various roles as described in the post lol!!! I also thought about my relationships with them and realised i could move into or play different roles to my friends i.e. move from the cheerleading role to the pusher….
take care of yourself and enjoy the rest of the day
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31 Karen June 9, 2010 at 9:04 PM

Hi Ayo,

I’m well and I hope you are enjoying a fantastic week.

We all play various roles with our friends – sometimes at the same time! I’m glad that you enjoyed the article and that it made you appreciate your friends and yourself, too.

Thanks,
Karen

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32 Maria June 6, 2010 at 7:12 PM

Hi Karen,

A unique way of looking at our friends, I have one of each of the ones you described and always think myself lucky to have found such good people. Love the article.
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33 Karen June 9, 2010 at 9:05 PM

You are definitely one of the lucky ones, Maria :-) Your friends are lucky to have you and vice versa. Thanks for letting me know that you enjoyed the article.

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34 Chris Eh Young July 7, 2010 at 8:32 AM

What a great post. It reminds that I need to get out and make some new friends LOL. Sometimes when you grow in life you realize that you have to leave some of the negative friends behind and replace them with these seven types.

Time to take stock and see which friends go into which category.

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35 Karen July 7, 2010 at 8:44 AM

Welcome Chris,

I know what you mean. You can hang around with the same friends for years and not realize how much you are affected by them. If it’s in a positive way, that’s great, but often many new friends can bring fresh perspectives and expose you to things you never would have come into contact with unless you took initiative.

Thanks so much for stopping by and taking the time to share your thoughts,
Karen

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36 Thu Nguyen July 19, 2010 at 4:56 PM

Would it be a bit misleading that my friends are already within my family. I have quite a large one so we’re really close in many aspects. So the types of friends you have above while they do ring true is also missing one – the friend that informs, maybe this is a cross between the hipster or the gossip queen or king and even all of the above. But everyone needs someone who knows what’s up in the world from a moving forth standpoint. You’ll know them from they’re hard to get a hold of but when you do get to talk to them, man is it powerful stuff.
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37 Karen August 31, 2010 at 9:12 PM

Hi Thu,

I think that it’s wonderful that your friends are already part of your family. You know that you can always count on them – they ain’t going anywhere! :-)

Thanks for sharing your thoughts,
Karen

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38 Sandra Lee August 31, 2010 at 7:09 PM

Karen,

These are terrific categories of friends. I love #2 – the hipster. The great thing about the internet is the way it breaks down age barriers. I know more hipsters now than ever before in my life.
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39 Karen August 31, 2010 at 9:13 PM

Me, too, Sandra! (no one knows how old you really are on the internet – isn’t it wonderful?) :-)

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40 yoyo December 15, 2010 at 10:49 AM

friendship is like a chrysalis, the caterpillars turn into butterflies. as well as friendship should grow into better and better.
quote here is very interesting, hopefully there is another new quotations that can foster a spirit of friendship.
thank you very much ……………..

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41 Karen December 19, 2010 at 3:36 PM

You’re welcome, yoyo. Glad that you enjoyed the article :-)

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42 Disi March 14, 2011 at 4:09 AM

thank you Karen for the post
you have provided us with some informative definitions.
we all have these kinds of friends but you provided us with categories that each one fits on.

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