This is a guest-post from John Sherry of RealSimplePeople. I hope you enjoy his message to have less stress in your life.

No one is immune from stress these days.

In the modern fast paced, high intensity world, stress has become almost a normal expectation. A pay-off for hard work, climbing the career ladder, the race to having more and generally getting by. We are used to it being part of the furniture even though it’s a killer. Like a dent in our car or mark on the carpet, we shrug and accept it.

We control it and live with it now. Park it. Get along with it. Cope with it. Somehow it’s become part of us.

So much so that a whole industry has grown up around it like a support system. In the business field it’s called ‘Stress Management’ or, put another way, the you’ll-never-get-rid-of-it-so-learn-to-minimise-it trade.

Within Health and Well Being circles experts advocate exercise and meditation to deflect it, while in the spiritual realm the aim is to transcend it via turning to God, the Universe, Spirit, even angels and guides who watch over us.

All well and good but these terms, techniques and trusts only ever surface level the stress. They touch the symptoms but never the root cause. The heart of the heart attacking. They deal with the aftermath and the reaction, but not the reason. Like a headache pill for a hangover. Or a bandage for a wound. Temporary.

There is one underlying cause for stress. One factor that makes it all happen. One that creates stress and also busts it right out of the water. A secret that few mention. Or you never get told. Until now!

The real cause of stress is……..YOU!! Yes, you read it correctly.

The secret is YOU are stress.

I’ll give you a second to get your head around that.

Stress is your own personal negative or worry-driven emotional response to circumstances in your life.

Not the actual circumstances but your anxiety speaking through your perception of what will result. Bad things that might occur. What might go wrong. Troubles that trouble you. It is your invitation to harm yourself by yourself in what you negatively see, anticipate, think, expect and project.

Once this mindset becomes ingrained it spreads alarm throughout all your senses constantly informing you that many events or situations are threats to safety and security. It gets locked in and turns inward harming you. Thus you can’t seem to beat the thing or break free.

Stress is what you do to yourself.

You probably won’t like that and plain disagree saying such things as.

“I didn’t ask for my boss to keep upping my workload”, or

“I have three kids who are hard to control, are you saying I want to be tearful all the time because I have no time for myself?”, or even,

“I try hard and run two jobs to make ends meet. Is that my fault then?”

Okay, get this. You made it happen. Not directly but by your ultimate choices.

• You chose the job that has a high work level.
• You elected to have 3 kids that are now draining your time and energy.
• You don’t value yourself enough to go and get what you are worth so take lower paid work.
• You make choices that have results. Know this. Deal with this. Be responsible for this.

It’s tough to accept. But it cannot be hidden anymore that you are the key. The secret. The whole shebang.

In stress terms whether you like it or not no one made you have kids, work where you do, put up with what you put up with or are broke and poor as a church mouse. The only exception here are those suffering from a major illness or serious medical condition so long as it’s not stress related. Their stress comes with their struggle and uncertainty and nobody invites that into their world.

For the rest of us it’s time to get real and deal.

Get real and wake up to what’s going on. Stop blaming everything and anything, everyone and anyone. You got yourself into this mess that’s stressing you out, so you can get yourself out of it and feel better too.

Deal with it. Don’t just let it be. If your job is too much then search for another one. Update your skills. Take a course to improve your prospects.

Hey, just quit. Go for something that you enjoy and that makes you want to get up every morning. One that’s a pleasure, not a pressure.

Face up to the fact that your stress is down to you and up to you!

If you want it to quit then you gotta quit doing something in return. Change you attitude. Trust yourself more. Demand time for yourself. Don’t let others keep taking from you. Choose not to lose. Have faith in what’s possible. Unlock your abilities. Follow your dreams. Be yourself. Never give up. With love, appreciation and confidence you will make your mark. Someday, somewhere, somehow.

Record breakers only need to do it once to be the world’s best.

You can get the best out of your world in record time now by dumping the stress you are responsible for. The stress you started that could finish you. The tension few peoople mention.

And I can’t stress that enough.

John Sherry writes the blog RealSimplePeople on how to keep life simple. He believes we have got used to living too complicated and that life isn’t rocket science, more rocket salad. If that’s your kind of life, why not drop by and become a real simple person too.

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